Adding A Vibrator Into Your Sex Life

More and more women are embracing vibrators as a self-pleasuring staple. And while it’s a good thing that sex toys are allowing women to take their pleasure into their own hands – literally and figuratively, it can also be a win-win situation with their partners.

Sex toys don’t have to be threatening to your significant other; in fact, they are only bound to add some fun and adventure to your sex life.

If you’re not sure if your partner would find sex toys as exciting as you do, try introducing the topic in stages. You can pick up a book about sex, and discuss what both of you would or would not like to do, or let him accidentally see you browsing a website that sells these items.

Once you’ve got him on board, set up a date night to shop online. Enjoy browsing through the hundreds of products available and see which kind of sex toys interest you both. If you have concerns about privacy, be rest assured that most of these retailers deliver their products in discreet, plain packaging, so no one else will ever know what’s inside.

Egg-shaped and smaller vibrators are great for beginners as they can easily be shared in the delight of both partners. Alternatively, rabbit vibrators offer a more enhanced experience. He may be worried that he’s getting replaced by a vibrating toy, but once he see’s how this kind of toy can improve playtime for you both, he’ll swiftly catch on.

Here are a few examples of how to incorporate vibrators into your bedroom fun.

On Him

While almost any speed from a vibe can be pleasurable for a woman, a light touch is less likely to get him stirred up. Putting it on moderately high speed and firmly pressing it against his penis will be more stimulating. Use lots of lubricant and focus on the head, and its underside.

Try moving the vibrator in small circles or in small back and forth strokes to spice things up. If he’s not able to climax on the vibrator alone use it as part of oral play. Also to his enjoyment, let him watch you use it on yourself or allow him to take charge with a remote control if your vibe features it. Most men find this extremely arousing and he’ll be wanting even more of it next time.

On You

Lie side by side with your partner and have him place the vibe between your labia, over or near the clitoris, with his hand cupped over the vibrator. Allow him to adjust the speed as he pleases, but let him know if it gets overwhelming. Also show him how to play around with it to your satisfaction. Teach him how you like to use it and don’t be afraid to guide his hand to the motion you prefer.

Alternatively, have him sit or lie between your legs. This will give him two hands to work with, for better access and a nice view he’ll just love. Lube is essential in this position. If you like, have him reach for your g-spot with one hand while he stimulates your clitoris with a vibrator in the other. This will be nothing less than orgasmic!

For Both Of You

One way to engage vibrators in your foreplay is to slip an egg or bullet between your bodies in just about any face-to-face position. You’ll want it between your outer labia so this way, you’ll feel the sensations directly, and him indirectly. The way you glide against each other will change how strongly the vibrator stimulates you. This fun trick can get you highly aroused for the main treat.

During intercourse, your partner can use the vibrator on your clitoris in a few positions as he thrusts. Most rear entry positions allow this, as well as “spoons” and some sitting positions. It’s also possible for you to use the vibrator on yourself in some positions with your hand guiding it – it’s really a matter of what both of you find acceptable and mutually enjoyable.

Remember, there’s no code for bedroom play so experiment as much as possible to find out what both of you truly enjoy.